Relationships
I decided to write this encouragement about relationships because it is pivotal that we never lose sight of how important they are. On a day to day basis the relationships we have with people very close to us is tried on every hand. I personally am challenged with this issue constantly. I have to maintain my attitude and composure on a continual basis in order to not be thrown off and end a relationship with someone very close. The basis and foundation of any relationship should be love and a mutual respect for that person. The relationship should be one that is healthy which means communication is clear and two sided. The relationship should be based on forgiveness and a willingness to work through and past problems. All of these component’s make for a strong and healthy relationship that should last and weather any storm.
When it comes to relationship with a parent and their adult children a mature healthy relationship is one that allows for a natural matriculation of child to adult and from parent to equal sort of speak. What I mean is that when parents become older and their children become adults with children a healthy transition is to allow your children to be adults that you respect as parents. This allows your relationship to grow and mature while being an example to the next generation coming up. Many people who have unresolved issues whether it be insecurity or control have trouble letting people grow and mature. This typically comes out of very dysfunctional upbringings. Now we all know that there are very few functional households these days but there have been many successful relationships to come out of very dysfunctional situations. Any relationship that is based on control or dominance will never be a fruitful relationship it breeds rebellion and struggle for control.
Being one who councils many people on an ongoing basis the major topic in many cases is relationships with others. This is the reason I chose to speak about this very important topic. I see many people failing in relationships with “friends“, marriages, and family members. A lot of which has not had a stong foundation to begin with. So in many instances I have to tell people and I am now saying this to the reader make sure that you have a firm foundation in the relationship, if not it will not stand the test of times. I also say over and over again that if something starts off wrong you can’t get right out ouf it. So with this being said you have to put in much work not only for a relationship in general but for a relationship to continue.
My advice to all who read this is to remember that to those you love it takes patience, work, commitment, and a willingness to want relationships to be successful. You have to be in it for the log hall. It has to be a shared responsibility where both parties are willing to work on it growing and continuing. You must be willing to give and to take. Most of all you have to be willing to take the low road sometimes which means swallowing your pride when you may be the one who is right in the situation. Relationship is give and take and there should be no more of one over the other.
I hope this helps anyone who may be struggling with keeping healthy relationships. As an individual wemust look at ourselves daily and assess who we are and what we bring to our many different relationships. We must be true to self and look at our lives closely and clearly to see if we are the issue of the relationships not succeeding. Finally if one finds themself in failed relationship over and over again it is probably you who are the problem. This simply means that you have to work on being better and bringing more to the success of these relationships.
Have a great Day!
D