Relationships
Often times we are perplexed in relationships with people. Weather with parents, siblings, boy or girlfriends or just friends in general there is typically something that comes to destroy these relationships. Many of us fall into one or two categories when it comes to relationships; we are either the loyal ones, or the betrayed ones. If you are like me I am in it to win it when it comes to those that I call close. I will do any and everything to keep the relationship together. The bad part in this situation is if and when you don’t know if those that you are being loyal to are being as loyal. To the ones who are betrayed in most cases it is because you are looking for the best in people and willing to give those who come around a chance. Now this is not bad if you are not allowing yourself to be manipulated by these types of people. So how do we combine the two to be a balanced person when it comes to relationships you may ask? My answer is to never follow your emotions over your gut, conscience, spirit, intuition or whatever you want to call it. You and I are spiritual beings having physical experiences. What this simply means is that you have innate qualities that warn you of potential trouble. Most people who have been hurt, or had something bad happen to them will tell you in most cases they knew something was off something was off or wrong. Following your gut will always lead to the right place.
In this life we live it is very easy to be distracted by those who are only in our lives to be time bandits, dream thieves, or trouble magnets. For the sake of our kindness it is often viewed as weakness. So from this day forward be very aware of your surroundings. Make sure you are being lead by your heart not your mind. Love those who need it the most. Spread yourself to as many people that you can without spreading yourself thin. Remember that people are in our lives for a purpose, reason, and or season so make the best of it. Don’t allow people to manipulate you in any way for relationship. Ladies if the brother won’t wait then he will never commit to you. Fellas if she can’t be real with you and true to you then she is not a keeper. In many situations we will stay in a relationship to our detriment and then put ourselves in to a closed place when it comes to others. what is happening is that we are now guarded and will not let anyone else in very easily. This can all be prevented. If you have that one crazy family member that acts foolish constantly and they have been forgiven multiple times to repeat the erratic behavior you must move on. The only thing that can happen in this type of relationship is dysfunction. We must be people who will tell the truth when it needs to be told because that is true love,care, and concern for that family member. To continue to allow them to abuse the relationship is insanity. The definition of insanity is doing the same thing expecting different results. The other reason that we would allow this type of abuse is because we really don’t care about ourselves.
A relationship with people can be great if we are at a place to truly embrace these relationships. I must first look at myself and love what I see. I must be comfortable in my own skin to allow for healthy relationships. Finally I must know who I am in God to truly show and give love to those who I embrace.
As a final thought remember no man is an island and the very core of our creation was based on relationship with God. We are relational people and typically flourish when we have healthy relationships in our lives. From this day forward stop and look around you, take note of who you have and call close, evaluate who, what, when. Where, and why people are with you. Make the most of those relationships that you know are healthy. Sever those relationships that are cancer to you, and build new relationships to replace the toxic ones. Don’t bring baggage into the new relationship as it is like carrying a death wish to the new relationship. We must be willing to be vulnerable and trust again after toxic and or bad relationships. It is worth it to have solid people around you to call close friend. It is healthy to have those around you who will stretch you and tell you when you are wrong. We need people to be accountable to and vise versa. All of these things mentioned make for a healthy well rounded relationship. No matter what kind.
Let relationship mean
Something to you from now on!
Have a great day.
D